So in the past few weeks I have turned 34 and attended the wedding of one of my best friend’s. This has me thinking about certain things. Here is one of my fears: that the dating market thins out as you get older, that more and more of the cool attractive single girls get “snapped up” in their 20s and you are mostly left with
dregs less desireable people.
OK, of course there are good people out there at any age, around the start of the year I was dating a divorcee six years older than me who was certainly a quality girl. But do women like that get harder to find after a certain age? Say the mid-30s?
I had a big discussion about this with Tallman, who is just a few months younger than me and disputes this theory. He posits that perhaps it is just the boring people who step out of the single lifestyle for boring marriage. However I am not convinced, most women do want to have kids and so need to be settled down by a certain age.
Think about it: everyone enter’s puberty single, then certain people settle down. Of course there is some turnover as people break up and divorce. But that is limited.
I’m look at this from a guy’s perspective, considering women, but of course the same could be said about men (including myself). Perhaps by the time guys are in their mid-30s, most of the committment-minded men have been busy making committments, and those left on the dating market are the ones with phobias and issues?
I remember my friend M., whom I dated briefly, complaining about her guy: well, he’s 35 (or was it 36?) and never been married, what is wrong with him? I laughed, but at the same time was thinking “eep” a little bit. Just how long do I have before people start saying that about me?
UPDATE: Edited slightly